Ive long wondered what is masculinity? Is it real or a social fabrication meant as a mind prison for masculine entities? What spurred these musings again was watching some news coverage about manosphere nonsense. i know this weird right wing garbage is just that, garbage, but is there anything to masculinity itself? Is it merely a feeling, a form of physical presentation, or is it an attitude? I havent yet been told a satisfying definition.
I have been told its up to the entity in question which... Without some at least vague parameters makes it seem like social illusion to me, a mind maze to keep ones actions and thoughts predictable.
I am not trying to invalidate any masculine entity's identity, merely sharing my own confusion while asking a question, answers to this question might help me better define myself with words, as describing myself in less than a year's worth of contact seems fraught at best.
A cis male once told me, a very cis-male presenting entity that i should "be more manly"
I asked him "and what should i do that would constitute manliness?"
He replied "shouldnt use big words for one."
I asked further "intelligence is seen as feminine? Or rather stupidity is masculine?"
This flustered him and he said "well... No... Its just seeming brainy makes you seem like a nerd, and nerds are usually weak..."
I smiled and asked "so if i proved im stronger than you, that would suffice? You're acting like an authority of masculinity, so naturally if i hospitalize you that will prove i am sufficiently manly, yes?"
He grew flustered and fearful and for some reason asked me to "calm down"
So you see i have questions, and would like demystifying answers from others with a firmer grasp of this concept. As a creature in a masculine body with otherwise no real concept of masculinity i grow curious.